“The human race shouldn’t have all its eggs in one basket, or on one planet.”—Stephen Hawking
“The challenge of the great spaces between the worlds is a stupendous one; but if we fail to meet it, the story of our race will be drawing to its close.”—Arthur C. Clarke
“I would not see our candle blown out in the wind. It is a small thing, this dear gift of life handed us mysteriously out of immensity. I would not have that gift expire… If I seem to be beating a dead horse again and again, I must protest: No! I am beating, again and again, living man to keep him awake and move his limbs and jump his mind… What’s the use of looking at Mars through a telescope, sitting on panels, writing books, if it isn’t to guarantee, not just the survival of mankind, but mankind surviving forever!”—Ray Bradbury
David and Jane Read, from the Arthur cartoon
A basic truth few seem to remember these days: It’s better to start with a strong friendship and then later build love on that sturdy foundation, rather than to seek love from a stranger and then hope you’ll later become friends as well. If you want a love that lasts and a relationship that’s rewarding, look to your friends. If you want a fling, followed by poor communication, arguments and finally heartbreak, then try to find love from a virtual stranger that you aren’t already good friends with. Don’t expect a lasting, stable relationship from a stranger any more than you’d expect a casual fling from a close friend. You want real love? Look at your friends.
It’s funny; all of the above used to be conventional wisdom: you were supposed to start as friends and see how it goes. Seems like very few people, either female or male, understand that these days. Everybody thinks a firm divide that Shall Never Be Crossed between the so-called “friend zone” and possible lovers. Not long ago, the so-called “friend zone” was exactly where you were SUPPOSED to look for real love. No wonder relationships almost never last nowadays.
“If we listened to our intellect we’d never have a love affair. We’d never have a friendship. We’d never go in business because we’d be cynical: ‘It’s gonna go wrong.’ Or ‘She’s going to hurt me.’ Or, ‘I’ve had a couple of bad love affairs, so therefore…’ Well, that’s nonsense. You’re going to miss life. You’ve got to jump off the cliff all the time and build your wings on the way down.” ―Ray Bradbury